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Steps to take when your spouse wants a divorce in Alabama

On Behalf of | Oct 26, 2021 | Divorce

Getting divorced in Alabama is very unfortunate, especially if you didn’t see it coming. Your spouse could surprise you with a divorce or refuse to resolve the issues that may have torn you apart. When that happens, to protect yourself, your finances and any children you may have, you should take the following steps.

Don’t move out of the family home

When divorce is imminent, couples can find it hard to see eye to eye tolerate each other. Thus, one party will always consider moving out until the divorce process is over. However, you should never opt for this move, especially when children are involved.

Moving out can impact the judge’s decision about who gets custody of the child. To be on the safe side, until the divorce and custody arrangements are finalized, you and your soon-to-be-ex-spouse should consider sharing the family home.

Don’t let the other parent take the children

This is also another common phenomenon that is a great mistake. When tensions are high, one parent decides to leave the family home and take the children with him or her. Judges often see this parent as having a better relationship and trust with the kids, and, therefore, he or she stands a better chance of getting custody.

If your partner wants to leave, let him or her go, but don’t allow him or her to take the children out of the family home. Again, consider time-sharing until everything is worked out.

Safeguard your property

Start by canceling all your jointly owned credit cards, and then secure all your valuable personal property. Remember, your goal is to keep your valuables safe, not hide them.

Hiding property may not sit well with the judge during the distribution of assets. The court will still want to know the value of what’s yours and what belongs to the both of you. Also, don’t sign any papers or preliminary agreements your spouse offers, as this can impact divorce, custody, and property distribution.

Get an attorney

You want the best legal advice on what you should and shouldn’t do when going through a divorce. Hiring an experienced divorce attorney will make things so much better and easier for you.

During this process, remember to set your emotions and feelings aside, and think rationally. One poor judgment can greatly impact how things will end for you.