The stress of divorce means that nearly everyone going through it has moments when they are not at their best. However, people in Alabama who are getting a divorce should make an effort to ensure that those moments are few and far between. At the very least, those lapses should not lead to behavior that could affect the divorce itself. How others perceive you is important, and reputation matters.
How you conduct yourself throughout the divorce process should center on a principle of not giving your soon-to-be-ex ammunition to use against you. This is particularly important if you have children because it could affect the custody issue. While it can be tempting to tell the world how badly your ex treated you, as long as the divorce is ongoing, it’s best to give only generic answers to personal questions. For example, you can simply say that things are difficult and thank the person for asking.
Social media can be a particular pitfall during a divorce. Even if you are very careful, friends may post joking comments to you that others might misconstrue. The best approach is to simply refrain from using your social media accounts while the divorce is pending.
Above all, you should avoid putting yourself into any situation about which you might have to later answer embarrassing questions in court. While this may limit what you can do, it will help ensure that your reputation is not vulnerable to attack.
If you are co-parenting after the divorce, you may need to continue practicing some degree of reputation management, particularly if you do not have a good relationship with your former spouse. If an issue does come to up that you think might put you in a poor light, you may want to discuss with your attorney how best to proceed.